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Jerks |
Doormat Nice Guys |
Attractive
Nice Guys |
| Mindset |
"I'll make time for you when I
feel like it." |
"I'll clear up my entire calendar
just to go out with you." |
"I'm a busy guy - I have a lot of stuff going on. If you're free
when I'm free, then maybe we can go out. Otherwise, no big deal.
Maybe we'll catch up some other time." We discuss building
confidence in "The Nice Guys' Guide #2"
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| Method of Attraction |
Jerks almost always have something else going for them (rich,
famous, local celebrity, good-looking, or "in the cool
fraternity / popular crowd / sports team"). Women aren't
attracted to these guys because they're jerks, but are
willing to put up with them because these guys have something
else going for them (rich, famous, ...)
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Don't attract women. Make
themselves always available to women, always at their beck and
call. Women walk all over these guys, & use them as a Doormat. |
Comfortable,
confident, & secure with who they are. Treat women well, but are
NOT doormats. Attractive Nice Guys have a life of their own, &
they make sure to convey this to women. We discuss not being a
Doormat in "Make Every Girl Want You" |
| Asking a Woman Out |
"Oh, you're busy Thursday? Well,
that's the only night I'm free so I'll just find another woman
who's free Thursday." |
"Oh yeah, any night works for me.
All I ever do is sit home & watch TV." |
"Yeah, Thursday night is best for me. Tuesday night I'm playing
racquetball & Wednesday night I'm having dinner with some
friends. Let's shoot for Thursday." We provide tips for asking a
woman out in "Make Every Girl Want You"
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| Approaching Women |
Because these guys have something
else going for them, they can often get away with saying stupid
things or using cheesy pickup lines. |
Can't think of anything else to
say, so they brag non-stop about themselves. They turn women off
in the first minute of conversation. |
Ask the woman questions, & show genuine interest in her.
Know not to brag about themselves. We
discuss how to approach women in a variety of situations in "The
Nice Guys' Guide #1"
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| Asking for Contact Info |
Usually ask for phone number.
Don't care if phone conversation is awkward; they'll just move
on to the next woman they meet. |
Are often too timid to ask for
contact info, often instead giving the woman their contact info.
Sit around aimlessly waiting for the woman to call. Women know
immediately this guy is a Doormat. |
Have learned to ask for e-mail address instead of (or in
addition to) phone number. This avoids calling when she has
company, is on the other line, doesn't feel like talking, or she
doesn't remember who you are! We discuss how to do this in a
group setting in "The Nice
Guys' Guide #2"
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| On a Date |
Don't care what the woman thinks.
If they happen to impress her, that's cool. If not, who cares. |
Spends a lot of $$ on the date,
to make up for his insecurities about not being able to have a
good conversation. Women love to use this guy as a Doormat. |
Know that what's important on a date isn't how much $$ you
spend, but how great the conversation is, how much interest you
show in her, & how much fun the 2 of you have. We discuss
conversational techniques in "The Nice Guys'
Guide #1"
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